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VOL.VII : Issue 2 November 11, 2005
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Common sense solutions for Today's Parenting Challenges!
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Empowered Parents: Strong Families
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ENJOYING OUR SEVENTH YEAR OF PUBLICATION!

KNOW THIS: We are all one people, Mother Earth is our one country, LOVE is stronger than fear, and peace and freedom are the birthrights of all humanity.
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VOL.VII : Issue 2 November 11, 2005
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Common sense solutions for Today's Parenting Challenges!
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Empowered Parents: Strong Families
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ENJOYING OUR SEVENTH YEAR OF PUBLICATION!

KNOW THIS: We are all one people, Mother Earth is our one country, LOVE is stronger than fear, and peace and freedom are the birthrights of all humanity.
*** Chief Seattle

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INSIDE YOUR EP eJOURNAL
<*> Letter from Joan
<*> 30 Tips on Managing ADD at Home
<*> Fun, Jokes, All Good Stuff
<*> Bill Gates
<*> Messy Ideas
<*> Talking Bird
<*> Instructions to Stay Connected with Your Teen
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"You do what you know how to do; and when you know better, you do better."
- Maya Angelou
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Letter from Joan

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Hi dear Parent

In January of this year I told you this:

QUOTE--
My 2005 Mantra is "I’m too blessed to be stressed!" Good, eh? I love it. :) And do you know why? It’s because LOVE IS THE ANSWER! Always.This issue of the Empowered Parenting eJournal 2005 represents the beginning of the seventh year of continuous publication. That means I’ve written about 5000 pages for you, and have invested approximately 37.5 weeks of 8-hour days to this Labor of Love since 1999.
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You can add another six+ hours for this issue, but the important thing is that
I told you that LOVE is the answer. So, it shouldn’t surprise you that after 3½ years of being alone, I chose to share my life again. That’s when Johnny came into my Circle and I into his, along with Love.

There are so many reasons why we shouldn’t have met...but we did. We truly think that our deceased spouses might have had a hand in our meeting. There are so many similarities in our backgrounds that nobody would believe...but there they are. We have discovered that we can work together as well as play together...and that’s so good. Best of all, he likes to fish...and that’s just great !

One of the funniest and most unbelievable facts of all is this: My One for my new life collects Goofy as hard as I collect Pluto. Amazing!

Johnny is a retired professor and college dean, who is now an artist representative and owner of several successful online antique shops. He’s an expert on old and contemporary Carnival glass, Stretch glass, Opalescent glass and hand-blown glass, so if any of you EP parents have a question about a piece of beautiful glass that you own or have inherited, John will be glad to email with you. Visit his shops at http://www.rubylane.com/shops/enchantedgardensantiques
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Remember how I spoke about "using Me up" in January? Well, instead of using me up, I found Me again. In order to do that, except for a few short posts during the summer, I basically took off this year as far as the EP publication is concerned. Of course, I don’t need to tell you 1051 members that I did. :) Needless to say, it was good for me!

I continued to serve you individually, if not inclusively, when you wrote with questions or special needs. I shall continue to do so. Together we’ve lived through many a crisis, both natural and manmade disasters. I believe we are stronger for it.

Just in time for Thanksgiving (which actually we should experience every day in gratitude, yes?) is this lovely site, shared with me by an EP friend. It agrees with my belief that challenges make us stronger and teach us important lessons. Enjoy! Http://www.inspiringthots.net/movie/be-thankful.php

So now I shall wish you and yours Blessed, Holy Holidays and a Healthy, Happy, Prosperous New Year.

Just know this above all else, that I love each of you and that I value you, right here, right now, in all that you do.

Love,
Joan


P.s. Please remember: Strive to thrive; don’t just try to survive. And won’t you please forward this EP eJournal to all your friends who are Parents? I will appreciate your help in reaching others. Thank you.

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LOTS OF TIMES we wonder... "Why is this happening to me? Why do I have to endure this experience? Why can’t I have it easier, like some others I know?" Perhaps, dear EP Parent, it would be easier if you could give yourself an Attitude Adjustment. We all need one occasionally, myself included. If we can remember that Life is all about how we look at our surroundings, Life will get better. For example: Are we afraid of getting sick, or do we CHOOSE health? Big difference! The first is so negative it can give you a stomach ache, while the latter makes you positively glow. :)

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30 Tips on Managing ADD at Home
by Elaine M. Gibson

Based on 50 Tips on the Classroom Management of Attention Deficit Disorderby Edward M. Hallowell, MD and John J. Ratey,MD These tips are directly from Hallowell and Ratey with only slight modifications in wording as they apply to the home situation. According to Hallowell and Ratey:

There is no one syndrome of ADD, but many

ADD rarely occurs in "pure" form by itself, but rather it usually shows up entangled with several other problems such as learning disabilities or mood problems

The face of ADD changes with the weather-- inconstant and unpredictable

The treatment for ADD, despite what may be serenely elucidated in various texts, remains a task of hard work and devotion.

There is no easy solution for the management of ADD in the home. After all is said and done, the effectiveness of any treatment for this disorder depends upon the knowledge and the persistence of the parent.

Needed: structure, education, and encouragement

Make sure what you are dealing with really is ADD

Make sure someone has tested the child's hearing and vision recently, and make sure other medical problems have been ruled out. Make sure an adequate evaluation has been done. Keep questioning until you are convinced.

Build your support

Make sure there is a knowledgeable person with whom you can consult when you have a problem (learning specialist, child psychiatrist, social worker, school psychologist, pediatrician -- the person's degree doesn't really matter. What matters is that he or she knows lots about ADD, has seen lots of kids with ADD, knows his or her way around a classroom, and can speak plainly.) Make sure the teachers are working with you.

Know your limits

Don't be afraid to ask for help. You should feel comfortable in asking for help when you feel you need it.

Remember that ADD kids need structure

They need their environment to structure externally what they can't structure internally on their own. Make lists. Children with ADD benefit greatly from having a table or list to refer to when they get lost in what they're doing. They need reminders. They need previews. They need repetition. They need direction. They need limits. They need structure.

Post rules

Have them written down and in full view. The children will be reassured by knowing what is expected of them.

Repeat directions

Write down directions. Speak directions. Repeat directions. People with ADD need to hear things more than once.

Make frequent eye contact

You can "bring back" an ADD child with eye contact. Do it often. A glance can retrieve a child from a daydream or just give silent reassurance.

Set limits, boundaries

This is containing and soothing, not punitive. Do it consistently, predictably, promptly, and plainly. DON'T get into complicated, lawyer-like discussions of fairness. These long discussions are just a diversion. Take charge.

Have as predictable a schedule as possible

Post it on the refrigerator, the child's door, bathroom mirror. Refer to it often. If you are going to vary it, give lots of warning and preparation. Transitions and unannounced changes are very difficult for these children. They become discombobulated. Help the kids make their own schedules for after school in an effort to avoid one of the hallmarks of ADD: procrastination.

Take special care to prepare for transitions well in advance

Announce what is going to happen, then make repeat announcements as the time approaches.

Allow for escape valve outlets

Finding the right outlet will allow the child to leave the room rather than "lose it," and in so doing begin to learn important tools of self-observation and self- modulation.

Provide frequent feedback

It helps keep them on track, lets them know what is expected of them and if they are meeting their goals, and can be very encouraging. Notice the positive steps no matter how small and tell the child what you see.

Break down large tasks into small tasks

This is one of the most crucial of all training techniques for children with ADD. Large tasks quickly overwhelm the child and he recoils with an emotional "I'll-NEVER-be-able- to-do-THAT" kind of response.

By breaking the task down into manageable parts, each component looking small enough to be do-able, the child can sidestep the emotion of being overwhelmed. In general, these kids can do a lot more than they think they can. By breaking tasks down, the child can prove this to himself or herself.

With small children this can be extremely helpful in avoiding tantrums born of anticipatory frustration. And with older children it can help them avoid the defeatist attitude that so often gets in their way. And it helps in many other ways, too. You should do it all the time.

Loosen up. Act silly

Let yourself be playful, have fun, be unconventional, be flamboyant. Introduce novelty into the day. People with ADD love novelty. They respond to it with enthusiasm. It helps keep attention -- the kids' attention and yours as well. These children are full of life -- they love to play. And above all they hate being bored. So much of their "treatment" involves boring stuff like structure, schedules, lists, and rules, you want to show them that those things do not have to go hand in hand with being a boring person. Every once in a while, if you can let yourself be a little bit silly, that will help a lot.

But watch out for over stimulation

Like a pot on the fire, ADD can boil over. You need to be able to reduce the heat in a hurry. The best way of dealing with chaos is to prevent it in the first place.
Seek out and underscore success as much as possible

These kids live with so much failure, they need all the positive handling they can get. This point cannot be overemphasized: these children need and benefit from praise. They love encouragement. They drink it up and grow from it. And without it, they shrink and wither. Often the most devastating aspect of ADD is not the ADD itself, but the secondary damage done to self-esteem. So water these children well with encouragement and praise.

Use tricks to improve memory

They often have problems with what Mel Levine calls "active working memory," the space available on your mind's table, so to speak. Any little tricks you can devise -- cues, rhymes, code and the like -- can help a great deal to enhance memory.

Announce what you are going to say before you say it. Say it. Then say what you have said

Since many ADD children learn better visually than by voice, if you can write what you're going to say as well as say it, that can be most helpful. This kind of structuring glues the ideas in place.

Simplify instructions. Simplify choices.

The simpler the verbiage the more likely it will be comprehended. And use colorful language. Like color-coding, colorful language keeps attention.

Use feedback that helps the child become self-observant.

Children with ADD tend to be poor self-observers. They often have no idea how they come across or how they have been behaving. Try to give them this information in a constructive way. Ask questions like, "Do you know what just happened?" or "How do you think you might have said that differently?" or "Why do you think that other girl looked sad when you said what you said?" Ask questions that promote self-observation.

Make expectations explicit.

Don't assume anything or leave anything to chance.

Children with ADD respond to rewards and incentives.

A point system is a possibility as part of behavior modification or a reward system for younger children. Many are little entrepreneurs.

Try discreetly to offer specific and explicit advice as a sort of social coaching.
Many children with ADD are viewed as indifferent or selfish when in fact they just haven't learned how to interact. This skill does not come naturally to children, but it can be taught or coached.

If the child has trouble reading social cues -- body language, tone of voice, timing, and the like -- For example, say, "Before you tell your story, ask to hear the other person's first."

Make a game out of things when possible.

Motivation improves ADD.

Give responsibility back to the child when possible.

Let kids devise their own method for remembering what needs to be done, or let them ask you for help rather than your telling them they need it.

Praise, stroke, approve, encourage, nourish. Praise, stroke, approve, encourage, nourish. Praise, stroke, approve, encourage, nourish.

Be like the conductor of a symphony. Get the orchestra's attention before beginning.

You may use silence, or the equivalent of tapping your baton, to do this. Keep the child "in time," pointing to things that need to be done as you ask for their help.

Expect to repeat, repeat, repeat.

Do it without getting angry. Anger won't increase their memory.

Provide for exercise.

One of the best treatments for ADD, in both children and adults, is exercise, preferably vigorous exercise. Exercise helps work off excess energy, it helps focus attention, it stimulates certain hormones and neurochemicals that are beneficial, and it is fun. Make sure the exercise IS fun, so the child will continue to do it for the rest of his or her life.

Always be on the lookout for sparkling moments.

These kids are far more talented and gifted than they often seem. They are full of creativity, play, spontaneity and good cheer. They usually have a "special something" that enhances whatever setting they're in.

Highly recommended:
Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood through Adulthood
by Edward M. Hallowell, MD and John J. Ratey, MD.
Touchstone Books, 1992
ISBN #0-684-80128-0

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LISTEN UP, PLEASE

Next week is the beginning of the Holiday Season, no matter what your religious persuasion, and that means only one thing: If you think you’ve been rushing around all year so far...you ain’t seen nothin’ yet! To make sure you don’t spin out of control, perhaps you’ll keep the following handy for those daze (sic) when you want to run away from home.

Slow Down Therapy
author unknown

Slow down; God is still in heaven. You are not responsible for doing it all yourself, right now.

Remember a happy, peaceful time in your past. Rest there. Each moment has richness that takes a lifetime to savor.

Set your own pace. When someone is pushing you, it's OK to tell them they're pushing.

Take nothing for granted: watch water flow, the corn grow, the leaves blow, your neighbor mow.

Taste your food. God gives it to delight as well as to nourish.

Notice the sun and the moon as they rise and set. They are remarkable for their steady pattern of movement, not their speed.

Quit planning how you're going to use what you know, learn, or possess. God's gifts just are; be grateful and their purpose will be clear.

When you talk with someone, don't think about what you'll say next. Thoughts will spring up naturally if you let them.

Talk and play with children. It will bring out the unhurried little person inside you.

Create a place in your home...at your work...in your heart...where you can go for quiet and recollection. You deserve it.

Allow yourself time to be lazy and unproductive. Rest isn't luxury; it's a necessity.

Listen to the wind blow. It carries a message of yesterday and tomorrow-and now. NOW counts.

Rest on your laurels. They bring comfort whatever their size, age, or condition.

Talk slower. Talk less. Don't talk. Communication isn't measured by words.

Give yourself permission to be late sometimes. Life is for living, not scheduling.

Listen to the song of a bird; the complete song. Music and nature are gifts, but only if you are willing to receive them.

Take time just to think. Action is good and necessary, but it's fruitful only if we muse, ponder, and mull.

Make time for play-the things you like to do. Whatever your age, your inner child needs re-creation.

Watch and listen to the night sky. It speaks.

Listen to the words you speak, especially in prayer.

Learn to stand back and let others take their turn as leaders. There will always be new opportunities for you to step out in front again.

Divide big jobs into little jobs. If God took six days to create the universe, can you hope to do any better?

When you find yourself rushing and anxious, stop. Ask yourself "WHY?" you are rushing and anxious. The reasons may improve your self-understanding.

Take time to read. Thoughtful reading is enriching reading.

Direct your life with purposeful choices, not with speed and efficiency. The best musician is one who plays with expression and meaning, not the one who finishes first.

Take a day off alone; make a retreat. You can learn from monks and hermits without becoming one.

Pet a furry friend. You will give and get the gift of now.

Work with your hands. It frees the mind.

Take time to wonder. Without wonder, life is merely existence.

Sit in the dark. It will teach you to see and hear, taste and smell.

Once in a while, turn down the lights, the volume, the throttle, the invitations. Less really can be more.

Let go. Nothing is usually the hardest thing to do - but often it is the best.

Take a walk-but don't go anywhere. If you walk just to get somewhere, you sacrifice the walking.

Count your friends. If you have one, you are lucky. If you have more, you are blessed. Bless them in return.

Count your blessings - one at a time and slowly

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For those EP Parents who chose to get an extension on their Federal Tax, here is an interesting page about one person who helps folks like you. He’s blind and very successful. B.L., my NYC friend who had to run for her life, along with her furry companion Sammy on 9/11 (you remember, we prayed for her), told me about him. FYI, since so many of you followed along with her challenges during that terror-filled time, Sammy has now gone on to Doggie Heaven and B.L. has recently found a new friend, a LabraDoodle. Yes, it’s a cross between a Labrador retriever and a Poodle. Why? Because a Lab has such a lovely, loving disposition and the poodle doesn’t shed; thus, we have a smart dog to lead people with allergies. Amazing!

Http://www.whatsnextblog.com/archives/2005/04/how_a_guide_dog.asp

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I may have reprinted this in the past, but it bears repeating, especially when one of the "younger generation" thinks they know it all, and you cannot stand it one more minute.

High School Address given by Bill Gates

MT. WHITNEY HIGH SCHOOL in Visalia, CA. Love him or hate him, he sure hits the nail on thehead with this! To anyone with kids of any age, here's some advice.

Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a HighSchool about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talked about how feel-good , politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

Rule 1: Life is not fair -- get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping -- they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes andl istening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.

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MARCIE, one of our EP Parents (who, along with hubby Jim, is a traveling storyteller now) sent this for other parents who will one day publish their Declaration of Independence, too.

" Please accept what I have done or what I may do.
It's the best I have to offer. I am not A person, I am THIS person,
unique and special. Please do not judge me as right or wrong
as good or bad. I am what I am and I've never been happier. "

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And this from CINDY, another smart EP Parent:

Parenting Gem: Some messy ideas

Mud pie-making, balloon heads filled with mud, foot-painting and mud splatters! Sounds messy, sounds like a heckuva lot of fun and it is!
For some great (and unusual) ways for your child to get messy and have some messy fun visit http://www.omodir tisgood.com.au/fun.htm
It has PDF's of these activities and more that you can print off and try some time soon.

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YOU ARE gonna love this one. Make sure the Liddle Kiddles see this, too.

Http://animal.discovery.com/fansites/petstar/videogallery/season3/ep309_winner.html

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I’ll end with this one for EP Parents of teen girls:

Stay Connected with Your Teen
By Eileen Pettycrew

"Just wait ‘til she’s a teenager!"

What mother of a daughter hasn’t heard this? These words always sent a trickle of tension into my stomach. As in, just wait a few years, then you’ll be in for it. That sweet little girl of yours will evaporate into thin air and be replaced by a sullen and sarcastic creature, who will fight you every step of the way. And this transformation will happen overnight and when you least expect it.

One night when my daughter was eleven, she said a harsh word to me that she punctuated with an accidental finger pinch in her closet door. Annie switched off the tears in an instant and dived for her bed. "Go away," she said. I did. But, not wanting to end the day on a negative note I returned to her bedside and laid my hand on her back. Annie jerked away from me with a grunt. "What’s wrong?" I asked. My words only caused her to scoot to the far corner of her blanket cave. The more I talked, the more her ball of a body grew rigid with rejection. The gap between us widened. Consumed with frustration, I headed for the door wondering, Is this it? Is my little girl turning into an unreachable alien?

When Annie was six, she had a tantrum during dinner that left me strung tight with a jangle of emotions. I plunged into washing the dishes, attempting to sink into a warm, soapy spiral that would carry me off to a distant galaxy. But not five feet from where I stood, Annie lay sobbing. Like the warmth that penetrated my dishwashing gloves, I felt a faint glow seep into the edges of my heart. I pulled off my gloves and went to her. As we hugged, I could feel her body melt into my embrace. Then she pulled away and drew a picture of me, writing, "This is Mommy giving me a hug." She drew herself with a downturned mouth and purple tears.

As I stood in her darkened doorway, I knew I had two strikes against me: Annie had already rejected an offer for a hug. And she certainly wasn’t going to draw a picture of a girl with purple tears. I longed for that little girl, and I refused to believe she was lost to me. But what could I do to crack through the impenetrable shell she had built around herself?

The answer came in a glimmer. I padded downstairs to get my candle. Back in her room, I struck the match. "I brought my candle," I whispered, having no idea how Annie would respond. She knew I often used candles as I worked or prayed, but we had never before sat by candlelight in her room.

Annie poked her head up. Holding the candle between us, I watched in silence as she turned toward the single flame in the darkness, her face glowing in the light. After a few moments, she asked if she could blow it out. As the smoke curled upward, we shared a hug that reached in and touched our hearts--and I knew the little girl with purple tears was still there.

Is it surprising that Annie would hide that little girl away? Don’t we all do this to some degree? How often have I ignored the girl in my heart--the girl who picked pomegranates off the backyard tree, cracked them open on the glider handle, peeled the yellow membrane inside, and sank her teeth into the rows of ruby-like fruit, even as she knew that at school the next day her hands would be stained purple? How often have I relied only on external cues, forgetting that she holds the key to who I am?

I never found out what was bothering Annie that night. Maybe she didn’t know herself. I do know that as I sat with her in the candlelit silence, I sank into an inner stillness. My demand to fix what was wrong drained away. I felt Annie meet me in the middle, in a place of mystery that lay between us like a roll of undeveloped film. I felt a movement of grace, swirling through the silence we shared.

My daughter is now fifteen. Yes, raising her is a challenge. But I know I can meet her by candlelight, where we’ll both have room to enter the little-girl landscape of our hearts and remember who we are. And in this place, no amount of adolescent angst can come between us.

For mothering tips and encouragement in the important work of raising young teen daughters, visit Eileen’s Web site at www.eileenpettycrew.com


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War cannot be humanized, it can only be abolished. -- Albert Einstein

The ultimate oxymoron: "Holy War"
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FOR PEACE ON OUR PLANET: We are not going to be able to operate our Spaceship Earth successfully nor for much longer unless we see it as a whole spaceship and our fate as common. It has to be everybody or nobody. -Buckminster Fuller

NEXT ISSUE: More encouragement from EP Parents' Cheerleader!

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* /____\ * . . *In the meantime, here is an angel sent to watch over you for me.

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FROM BILL:
We are Angels born with but one wing,
In order to fly we must embrace one another.
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Till next time, don't forget -- Parenthood is Wonder-filled!
Fondly, Joan

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